is it destiny or hardwork?

last few months i was so busy vd exams, entrances, studies,dint gt time for blogging...
in past dayz i got jolted vd a thought does destiny plays d most unenviable role to prepare you to fight or is it hardwork which makes you what you want to be...i cleared all d written entrances..d toughest possible....but failed in interviews..was pissed, depressed, was cursing myself....lastly a thought came running from my best friend "every thing happens for its own good...", now what?
why we came across this thought only wen we fail?...seby told me its jst dt v give up our failure n lend it to d curse of bad fate...but inside out we knw whr we go wrong...still...i m nt convinced till date..nw m doing a professional course smwhr down d line i still think y it happened vd me dt i got rejected in topmost institutes?...dn d answer came from same person, its cus v r beggars n nt choosers...is it so? hv i got wot almighty wanna gv me as he wanted..m i nt capable enf to snatch d opportunity lying in front of me,by myself,vd my efforts?
i dnt knw if in life i wld ever gt dese answers....

why??

last day i watched two movies both dealing with more or less on same subject...a guy with epicurean philosophy of living life to the fullest and realising their dreams with in a short span of time because were suffering from cancer in stomach...one was ANAND and other was DASVIDANIYA...now in anand the veteran tries to be a optimism in personification..he tries to spread love and warmth everywhere with laughter n his world and in dasvidaniya 'amar kaul' the character shortlisted ten things to do in the life he is living...they were wishes,dreams,etc.

now my part comes..some questions are there in my mind through which i was juggling with the whole night to say,...whose life is much better ??...that of a person who knows he wil die in 2 months so in that time he covers evey trivial to big issues of life...or the one who dies in a split second in car accident without fulfilling even his single wish?

for some might say like my friend jyothi that the person who died on spot might carry his wishes to next birth...but what if there is no rebirth??

for a person like dhirubhai ambani(am taking him as an example to personify what i wish to say,so i hope their should be no issues on it.)the moolah he earned might be what we call 'God' ...a multi billionare sees mony as the passage for liberation.likewise for a hungry person who is hungry for five days or so might see god in his food...so where the right conception of liberation is? if someone gets a helping hand when he is drowning may the person helping him is god for him..so where is the true god that true spiritual omnipotent,omniscient...god is?? how he looks like? is he is in material gains or in spiritual meditation??? am really confused.....